Before I give the answer, I would like to analyze some passages from both the Old and New T.’s. Many people (mostly homosexuals and their atheist friends) claim that the Bible never says anything about marriage between one man and one woman. In fact, they usually bring examples of Old T. personages who had more than one wife, claiming that this is proof that God never intended marriage to be between one man and one woman. If you do not have a good understanding of the Bible then you may fall for this silly little tactic. Let’s take a look at what God says about marriage and then we will view the Old T. examples and see if they are being obedient to God or not. The best place to start, is always at the beginning so we will start with Genesis, the book of beginnings to see how marriage began and for whom it was created.
Then God said, “Let us make man in our image, after our likeness. And let them have dominion . . . So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it and have dominion . . . (Gen. 1:26-28)
Here are a few facts about the first couple, the first marriage.
- They were both created by God precisely, to be male and female (no mistakes, the gender that you have is the gender that God intended)
- God had a purpose for the male and the female (they were to rule together)
- God created them to come together and reproduce (sex was God’s gift to man and woman, in the confines of marriage)
- Sex between husband and wife is blessed by God (any other kind of sex is not blessed, homo and hetero)
One may ask, “but where is the marriage?”. That is a good question. The answer is found in chapter 2 of Genesis. Genesis 2 is a more detailed account of the creation that took place in chapter 1 and not a separate creation account as some try to argue. Genesis 1 and 2 is done like the nightly news. At the beginning of the nightly news, the outline of the program is given and then the details follow, throughout the rest of the program. Genesis 1 is like the non detailed preview and Genesis 2 puts the meat on the bones. Let’s see if we can detect the marriage here.
Then the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” The man gave names to all livestock and to the birds of the heavens and to every beast of the field. But for Adam there was not found a helper fit for him. So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said,“This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.” Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
- God is the One who noticed that it is not good for man to be alone (man was satisfied and he was not looking for a partner for life)
- There is only one thing that can meet the man’s need, from God’s point of view, a woman (just 1, not more)
- God creates the woman to be exactly what the man needs (the way that she is created physically, emotionally, spiritually, and mentally)
- There is a clear process to marriage here:
- man leaves his father and mother (creating a new family unit)
- he first joins to his wife (the literal translation is cemented together, this is the bond of marriage)
- then the 2 become 1 flesh (through the act of sexual intercourse, marriage first, then sexual relations)
- the 2 were together and not ashamed (shame comes when sex comes before marriage, or when marriage is anything other than 1 man and 1 woman)
Someone may say, “but that was the Old T., we live under the New T. so things are different, right?”. That is a good point so let’s see what Jesus says on the topic, since He is the Mediator of the New Covenant or Testament.
He answered, “Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. (Matthew 19:4-5)
Some men came to Jesus with some questions about marriage and divorce and from Jesus’ response we see that He also reinforces what God said in the very beginning (i.e. marriage is between one man and one woman). Things have not changed under the New T. The Apostle Paul, who was directly taught by Jesus Christ, Himself, also spoke on marriage. Here is what he had to say.
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. (I Corinthians 7:1-2)
Paul also teaches that marriage is between 1 man and 1 woman and anything other than that is immorality (especially homosexual marriage).
The question then arises, “how is it that the Old T. personages were able to have more than 1 wife?”. God allowed them to have more than 1 wife but He did not bless it. They chose to be disobedient to God and take more than 1 wife. Look at the problems that each of the men who took more than 1 wife had. From Abraham to Solomon, all of them had major problems because of their extra wives. It was not God’s will yet they chose it and paid the price for it. So, just because the men chose to disobey, does not mean that God approved of their actions.
What about you my dear friend, have you been deceived by the modern teaching that says marriage can be anything other than between one man and one woman? If you, you need to repent, turn to God, and believe what He says and live accordingly. God help us remain faithful to the Word of God and not be deceived by the trickery of men.